Getting Crafty

Not sure if I mentioned this before or not, but Jeff got me a beautiful iPad for Christmas, and instead of buying a cover for it I thought I would make one myself. I bought a plastic cover for it, but I wanted to make something like a little bag to carry it around. So right after Christmas I looked around on Etsy and looked at samples, then wentto Joanne’s and Michael’s and bought all the stuff I needed. I even went so far as cutting the fabric and filling…and then realized that I needed to use a sewingmachine to put it all together.


I’m ashamed to say that I’ve never used a sewing machine in my life. Most of this shame is because my grandmother is an amazing seamstress. I mean, amazing. She’s made beautiful wedding gowns, quinceanera dresses, she made my First Holy Communion dress (which I still have), as well as my prom dress. So, for her granddaughter to not know how to use one when she’s almost thirty…well, let’s just say I’m not very proud of it.
So, for the last three months, all my prep work has been sitting in a corner of our room. I also came to realize that I don’t really need it. But I already had all the materials, and I LOVE the color scheme and materials that I picked, so last week I decided it was time to finish the project.
I enlisted the help of my mom, and thank goodness for that. It turns out that when I sloppily cut all my materials, I didn’t leave enough room for all the seams, so she had to add some fabric here and there to make it work. She ended up putting it together by herself, but now I know more or less how to work a sewing machine, and hope that the next time I need to use it myself, I’ll be able to…

Finished product to come!

Dreams

I’ve been dreaming a lot lately. This wasn’t always the case (well, I might have dreamt, but I didn’t remember them). Now I remember my dreams all the time, and I couldn’t quite pin point how I felt about this. Until a couple days ago.


As I was driving, I realized I was annoyed. Why, you ask? Because the day after having a particular dream I find myself trying to figure out what they meant or where they came from. And this takes up time. Time that I would rather spend doing something else, or taking care of something else. Whatever dream theory you subscribe to, I’m sure they have their meaning and purpose. But I don’t really want to spend time every day trying to figure out what they mean.

Mostly because I never have a single idea what they mean, ha.

Networking

I used to hate it. I kinda still do.

But I’m getting better at it. It’s still awkward to walk up to people, introduce yourself, give your “elevator speech,” and hand out your business card.
This year I’m on the board of directors for the Orange County Hispanic Bar Association, and I’m also going to meetings and events for the Orange County Community Outreach Committee, not to mention monthly meetings for the Family Law and Immigration Law sections. Being involved in these organizations have really helped me improve my networking skills. It’s also given me an opportunity to attend events I wouldn’t otherwise be invited to.

For example, this past week we were invited to attend an event put on by Disney, where they invited members from many cultural organizations in Orange County, from various Chamber’s of Commerce to the National Society of Hispanic of MBA’s, among many others. It was a great group of people, and I got to meet and mingle with people from all different backgrounds and experiences. I feel so thankful that I’m part of an organization that gives me opportunities to do things like this, even if it’s at the expense of feeling awkward sometimes :)

Adventures in Starting My Own Firm: Mentors & Willingness

There are a few attorneys in the area that have been absolutely incredible and have truly given me confidence to keep doing what I’m doing. One of them has been extremely open in letting me ask her questions whenever I’m stuck on something: she always gives me more information than what I ask for, right away. And she’s never made me feel bad or guilty about using her time.

There are two other immigration attorneys who have recently talked to me about doing some contract work for them. They are both great at what they do, and they have sought me out because they have a ton of work, and need someone to help them out. In exchange they are offering me a great mentoring partnership (as well as paying me for the work I’d do for them), they have been incredibly generous with their time, and have offered to show me the ropes of immigration law. One attorney took me to the federal building and introduced me to almost every agent and clerk that he saw–which he knew personally. Everyone liked him, and was incredibly nice when I was introduced. I felt like I was getting star treatment.
Recently someone told me they really admired that I walked to the beat of my own drum. I found this really encouraging, and also eye opening. I’m not claiming that I’m a trailblazer for opening my own firm, by any means, but I know I’m doing things a little differently than most. I like feeling comfortable in my own skin, and sometimes this means wearing jeans to an MCLE event, and I love that I now have the confidence to wear jeans in a room full of suits. I’m always waiting for the 60-year old male veteran attorney to come up to me and tell me that I’m a disgrace to the legal practice for dressing the way I do (mind you, I’m not dressed like a slob, I just hate wearing suits when I’m not going to court). I’m sure someone’s said something to someone. But the truth is, I don’t think I am a disgrace to the legal profession, and I’m ok with it if people want to talk about it. I’m ok with not getting the approval of the veterans. At least for now…who knows…in a few months this could all crash and burn and I’ll realize that my rebellion needs to cease. Ha.

The reason for that whole last paragraph is that I feel truly blessed that attorneys think I’m trustworthy and smart enough to partner with, even though I don’t do things the “normal” way. It makes me feel like I’ll be okay if I keep doing what I do, and that I won’t crash and burn. There seem to be some great people out there that are willing to help me out, regardless of whether I’m rebelling against the suit or not.
Finally, this past week I was referred a case through a new contact. It’s in a subject area of family law that I haven’t handled before (obviously, there are a ton of areas I haven’t handled yet, haha), and my natural instinct was to send an email saying “hey, thanks for thinking of me, but I think you should refer it to someone else.” It’s not because I can’t do it…it’s because I lack the confidence to know that I can. But instead of sending that email, I read about the subject, looked at my practice guide, looked up the code, and realized it wasn’t a super difficult thing to do. So I said I was willing to talk to her friend, looked over her documents, and told her I’d be happy to take her case. She’s talking to another attorney tomorrow before she decides who to go with (I’d have to charge her for driving time since it’s not in my area). Whether I get the case or not, I’m really proud of myself for being willing to take it, instead of automatically passing on it.

Charity of the Month: Illuminate International

“Young people are capable of doing widely extraordinary work, their voices should be heard.”

If you’re one of those people who think you can’t make a difference in the world, I hope this Charity of the Month changes your mind.

Mike Kang was a freshman in high school when he started a youth activism campaign, which sprouted from a documentary made by Invisible Children. After his fellow students saw the documentary, Mike noticed there was a large response from students who were interested in the cause, but did not have an avenue or system on how they could get involved.

Most high school students would probably shrug their shoulders, and move on to their next class. But Mike decided to actually create the means through which his fellow students could be active participants for these causes, straight from school. So he created Generation Against Global Injustice (GAGI). One thing Mike really liked about this organization was that it was breaking the stereotype that young people can’t do much, or that young people can’t make a difference in the world. They can, and they did. In four and a half years, GAGI raised over $10,000 for partner organizations like Invisible Children, Just One, and One Day’s Wages (to name a few).

So what does GAGI have to do with Illuminate International? After Mike graduated from high school, he decided he wanted to focus on education, so it would be aligned with his career path in education and educational policy. So GAGI became Illuminate International. Why “Illuminate International”? Because their mission is to light the fire so that students can get an education, and because their purpose is to shine light on the issue of education, and lack of education in developing countries.

The plan is that Illuminate International will have one year partnerships with organizations that are working on education in developing countries, and Illuminate International will raise money for that partner organization throughout the year. The plan is also to use their growing network and social networks, such as YouTube, to bring awareness to education issues in developing countries, to people here in the United States.

Mike was inspired to act by his own childhood: growing up in Palos Verdes, he had access to everything he needed to succeed in life. After watching the documentary by Invisible Children, he realized that not everyone has this privilege: people have no access to the same things he had. Mike decided it was his responsibility to use these privileges for the public good, and to lend a helping hand were he could.

And he is doing just that.

Illuminate International wants to help schools become the central hubs of communities in developing countries, so that individuals realize that education is the only way for upward mobility for themselves and their families, and for the community to make education their main focus.


Mike hopes that years down the road, Illuminate International will be a political voice, a voice that can influence policy and the educational community, to make a political impact. In discussing who the lack of public education in developing countries can be attacked, Mike said “the governments have to take action, they have to setup quality public schools, have their own infrastructure instead of relying on nonprofits: individual governments have to take action and invest in their education.” I have no doubt that Illuminate International will try to make this a reality.

Similar to Haiti Scholarships, Illuminate International is run by volunteers, volunteers who also have other priorities, like graduating from college! This is where you can help. Sign up for Illuminate International’s newsletter, and sign up to volunteer at their events, where they are often short handed. Be the difference.

Updates on The Merry Ministers

I think I’ve come a long way since Shirley’s wedding last Summer. I’ve performed four wedding ceremonies since her’s, and have about 6 or 7 booked so far for this Summer. Not bad for something I didn’t even have in mind around this time last year.

The real exciting thing is that it’s becoming a little more than I initially planned. My mother-in-law stated that I missed my calling to be an event planner. I think there’s some truth in that. I really enjoy planning the shit out of things. Maybe those things are weddings.
I’m thinking that The Merry Ministers can become a one stop shop for a lot of things: officiant, photographer (Jeff), wedding coordinator (Erika is thinking of jumping on board), and list some reputable local vendors for rentals, flowers, and venues.
I love going through wedding blogs and seeing so many great ideas for stuff. I love the thought of sitting down with someone and helping them not only with their ceremony, but their wedding in general.
It’s a long way down the road, but who knows?
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Blogging and Lent

I can’t believe how long it’s been since I blogged. Jeff told me recently that I really need to keep writing, regardless of how busy I get with other things. It’s funny how this started as something to keep me busy while I was unemployed, and it’s become a creature of it’s own. Sometimes I wonder why I keep writing, since it’s hard to really know whether it makes a difference to anyone else whether I blog or not. Does anyone really care if I keep finding new charities to share? Does anyone care if I go to the gym or not? Are my discussions on development interesting to anyone other than myself? As I get busier with weddings, clients for my firm, and the other bajillion miscellaneous activities that I fill my days with, I can’t help but wonder if I’m being smart about the time I spend writing on here.

But I think Jeff is right. Jeff points out that my writing has improved significantly since I started, so that’s a reason right there to keep going. It also forces me to look for and find out about other great nonprofits out there. Something I probably wouldn’t do if I didn’t have to write my monthly entry. And it’s an avenue to share what I think are important social issues.
So, I just need to become more efficient with my time management :) Which leads me to…lent! A few years ago I started debating whether I wanted to give up something, or the modern alternative of trying to improve something about myself (stop cussing, don’t talk smack about people [as much], be a better daughter, etc.). I’m gonna try to do a combination this year: I gave up chocolate (Jeff’s mom made brownies the other day….they look so so so good), and I’ve decided to give up laziness as well. This means being showered and dressed before Jeff goes to work, no more morning coffee-internet-hulu-Reader sessions. I need to “go to work” on time, even if that means putting on jeans instead of pj’s, and sitting at the desk instead of the bed. My goal is to actually make it through my “to do” list, instead of just writing it every day.
Here’s to increased productivity, and chocolate withdrawals!

Recent Source of Inspiration

Upon a recent viewing of Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, I was inspired by this line:

“I am not going to sit on my ass as the events that affect me unfold to determine the course of my life. I’m going to take a stand. I’m going to defend it. Right or wrong, I’m going to defend it.”

I feel like this is the year to really live this line. I don’t think I’ve ever been so in control of my future. It really IS up to me to determine the course of my life: am I going to rise to the challenge of starting my firm, and make it a success? Am I going to do a half-ass job (like I did with law school and college) and be content with mediocrity? Or will I strive for perfection? It’s all up to me.

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