Life Plan

Something I’ve come to realize in this last year or so as I’ve just kind of been fumbling through life (career-wise, not personal–that side of my life is always awesome), is that I miss, maybe even need, a structured plan.

Elementary school is elementary school…you’re worried about what your mom packed you for lunch, or whether the nuns are going to confiscate your scrunchie because it doesn’t conform to the school colors of brown, green, black or white (oh wait, was that just me?).
Junior high you start thinking about what’s gonna happen after…and you know you’ve got four years of high school before you really have to worry about anything else.
High school you start thinking ahead to college, but you have counselors and parents around you telling you what you need to do to get there. Take the SAT. Study and get good grades. You know how many credits you need to graduate, and what classes you need to take to graduate. You fill out college applications, send them out.
College is a more serious version of high school: you have to pick a major, but once you do that, it’s all laid out before you: you need x units of general ed, x units towards your major, throw in a foreign language, make sure you get passing grades on all of them, and you’re set.
I know, it’s a simplistic view of our whole educational life, but bear with me.
I sometimes feel that one of the few reasons I went to law school was because I still needed this plan. I didn’t really know what to do next…so I decided to get back into a system that planned things out for me. It planned my next three years. Granted, it got me into a huge financial debt, but I’ve talked about my woes regarding that already.
But after law school…I feel like I’m completely lost. There’s no one telling me what credits I need to complete to move on to the next stage or chapter of my life. And it freaks me the fuck out (sorry mom).
Brookie and I talked about it this week, and it was refreshing to know that I’m not the only one that feels like this. Maybe that’s why I finally sat down to share this on my blog, even though I’ve been meaning to write it for months.
Most people don’t need this sort of “planning,” and instead thrive on just taking care of things as they come along. I really wish I was more like that (another blog I’ve been meaning to write is how much I hate my type-A personality sometimes). But alas, I need a plan.
A light bulb went on this morning. I looked for an email my friend Sheena sent me eons ago, with an attachment entitled: “Visioning and Personal Action Plans.” TA-DA! She’s pretty much been telling me I should do this for over a year, and I kept putting it off. I think it’s time.
So. Brookie and I have date: life planning.

Things I want/Music

Interesting title combo, huh?

Well, I want this shirt:

Because this band is amazing. Jeff and I saw them live at a tiny venue next door to Downtown LA, called the Bootleg Theater. We went to go see Gaby Moreno, a guatemalan singer who also kicked ass that night. She was incredibly amazing, and incredibly sweet. Aaaaand, we totally got a picture with her!

She was followed by Jones Street Station, and they were joined on stage by a couple cast members from Community. It was pretty sweet.
And then….The Bright Light Social Hour went on stage. Holy shit. It’s like 70’s funk, rock and roll, and the blues had a threesome and popped out an amazing baby. I highly recommend seeing them LIVE if you get a chance. Their album is good, but the recording is almost too...clean. Might sounds weird, but if you compare their album to live stuff, you’ll know what I mean. My favorites: Detroit (warning, it’s SUPER addicting), and Bare Hands, Bare Feet.
So, do yourself a favor and check them out. And buy me the mustache shirt. And grow a crazy mustache like the lead singer.

Holiday Gift Guide, 2011

I had grandiose plans since last year: compiling a massive gift guide the likes of which have never been seen before. But, 1) they pretty much already exist online (not exactly as I had envisioned it, but still, it’s been done), and 2) December 2011 came around much quicker than December-2010-me imagined it would.

I also started to realize that a lot of people/organizations have similar gift guides, so I’m going to do a combination here…I’m going to re-post other people’s guides that I find useful, and that list some of the organizations I already had in mind, and I’ll post my “supplemental” gift guide with other ideas for you. I hope it’s helpful :)
Rage Against the Minivan’s Gift Guide includes:
Collaborative World’s Gift Guide includes:
Nicholas Kristoff’s Annual Column on “Gifts that Say You Care” includes:
My “supplemental gift guide”:
(um, I was hoping to link to it but it seems like this will have to do until I switch over to WordPress and can actually upload PDF documents. sigh).

Holiday Gift Guide
http://viewer.docstoc.com/?key=NTllOTA1N2Ut&pass=OGRlZi00OTQwvar docstoc_docid=”107159738″;var docstoc_title=”Holiday Gift Guide”;var docstoc_urltitle=”Holiday Gift Guide”;

Happy Shopping!

Vote for a Logo!

So, one of the things that’s been keeping me too busy to blog about all the things I want to blog about, is trying to market some new business opportunities for Jeff and myself. One of these, which I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned before (although I’m pretty sure I have), is The Merry Ministers. I’ve got a basic website set up, but I wanted a pretty cool logo, and my Rama is absolutely amazing that she sent me so many options that I can’t chose. So I need your help. Which one do you like the most:
Exhibit A:

Exhibit B:

Exhibit C:

Exhibit D:

Submit your vote in the comments section :)
Please and thank you!

Charity of the Month: Robin Cheney, aka, 3-day for the Cure

“We walk because we must.
We are strong because the journey demands it.
Together in body and united in spirit we lay down our foot steps for this generation and the next. This is our promise, a world without breast cancer.”

I’ve known Robin for as long as I’ve known her sister, and her sister and I are celebrating our ten year friendship anniversary this year (yep, the WHOLE YEAR). I think I donated to one of Robin’s prior walks years ago (she started back in 2006), but I never really took the time to figure out what it was, other than insane MADNESS. Have you heard of the Susan G. Komen 3-Day for the Cure? It’s three days. Of walking. 20 miles a day. That’s 60 miles in three days. Like I said: insane madness.

Why would someone put themselves through that? Like most things in life, there are usually several reasons why we do things.

For Robin, one reason is that she wants to make a difference in the world. According to the numbers, breast cancer affects one in every eight women. The whole reason Robin first got involved with the 3-day Walk was because she saw a commercial for it, and was deeply moved by the stories of those affected, directly and indirectly, by breast cancer. If you think about it, you probably know someone that’s been affected, or know someone that knows someone. Think, Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon, but unfortunately you probably don’t need six degrees of separation.
Another reason Robin does it is because it can be “the most positive three days of your life.” By committing to this, Robin committed herself to push herself beyond her limits, both physically and mentally. Before her first walk, Robin was not a very active person, and the thought of walking more than from her car to a store seemed crazy to her! But along with a good friend she made the commitment, and put herself through streaneous training sessions, the first of which she quit after two miles. But she stuck to it, and she did again, and again.

What keeps her coming back?

“From the minute you wake up in the morning, perfect strangers are lining the streets cheering you on, sharing their stories and inspiration with you. There are people with t-shirts and signs that say ‘Your efforts saved my life’ — and it is true, with the amount of money each event raises (my last San Diego event raised $14 million — and the 3 Day is in 14 cities!), incredible strides are being made in detection and treatment. And, too, there are times in our lives where we are facing a seemingly insurmountable challenge and then I remind myself that I walked 20 miles a day for three solid days, something I never thought I could do — three times now! I can certainly deal with the little curve balls life throws me.”

Aside from the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of the 3-day walk, is the obvious financial one. One of the main reasons the walk exists is to raise money to help with research, development, awareness, and detection programs for breast cancer. Each participant pledges to raise $2,300.00. That’s a lot of money. Especially in these economic times. Robin admits that this is the most challenging part of the 3-day walk: “it is never easy to ask people for money, even for such a worthy cause. It is even more difficult to have to ask a few times, or even to get a response.”

I asked Robin why people should donate and help her reach her goal (she’s got one week until her race, and needs to raise $1,203 to reach her goal of $2,300), and this was her response:

“I feel that people should donate to the Susan G. Komen foundation because the disease they are combatting is one that affects us all. I look around at the girls in my classroom and think 3 or 4 of them will have breast cancer if we don’t find a way to cure, or at least diminish, the rate of this cancer. I have a student who lost her 32-year old aunt to breast cancer. I have a co-worker who lost BOTH parents to breast cancer. The youngest breast cancer survivor on my walk in ’08 was only 11 years old. I would challenge anyone to stand in a room with eight women and find that none of them has been personally affected by this disease.”
“I walk so that someday, no one has to.”



Do you Flush for Onesies?

Jeff and I visited some friends in Salt Lake City a few years ago, and our host forewarned us that she only flushed the toilet for number two’s, so please excuse any pee that you might find upon entering the loo. Okaaaay. Seemed kinda weird, but she mentioned it was more of a water conservation thing than weirdness. I realized it totally made sense.

Let’s drop some knowledge on toilets. Before 1994, most residential and commercial toilets used about 3.4 gallons of water per flush. Due to congressional policies, beginning in 1994 toilets began using only 1.6 gallons of water, and now high efficiency toilets use 1.3 gallons of water.
Did you know that 26.7% of your daily residential water use is from using the toilet? That’s 26.7% of 350 gallons, the average daily household water use. Let’s carry out the math…that’s 93.45 gallons of water a day, on flushing your toilet. Think of how many times you flush the toilet just for number onesies. That’s a shit-ton of water! (Disclaimer: I don’t think “shit-ton” is an actual measurement of any kind. It’d be awesome if it was though).
Total prolonged sidebar: I was amazed when I was in Haiti how little water you really need to shower. I would fill up a 5 gallon bucket of water about 3/4 of the way for bad days, and maybe a little less for days I didn’t feel as gross. It’s totally enough. Think about how many 5 gallon buckets of water you could fill with the amount of water you use to shower. I tried visualizing it the other day and just gave up. One easy way to cut back is to use the Guatemalan water conservation method. In Guate, you don’t have running water all day, so you store up your water in the morning, and use those water deposits throughout the rest of the day. When showering, most people turn off the water when they’re soaping up so they don’t waste that water, then turn it back on to rinse off. I’ll confess that I don’t do this: I like having hot water running the whole time…why would I turn it off and freeze while I soap up?! BUT, I should. And I will try to be better about it.
Back to pee.
In searching online, I agree with most people that flushing after a one or two is appropriate when you’re at other people’s homes (duh), if you have guests, and if you have small children or pets around that are likely to go digging in toilet water.
Aside from those specific concerns, I’d only be worried if it was unsanitary.
On the EPA website with tips for “How to Conserve Water and Use it Effectively,” it states: “Toilets should be used only to carry away sanitary waste.” The attorney in me would like a definition for “sanitary waste.” Does it include urine? According to the Utah Water Quality website, “sanitary waste” is “liquid or solid wastes originating solely from humans and human activities…” Damn.
I searched various phrases relating to “urine” and “sanitation,” but most of them involved drinking pee. That’s definitely not my concern. One comment mentioned that urine takes 24 hours outside the body before it starts to grow anything. I don’t think I go more than 24 hours without flushing our toilet. One comment I thought was pretty funny was someone concerned about the level of ammonia produced by urine, and how letting it sit in your bathroom will make it more difficult to breath (due to the increased levels of ammonia, duh). Maybe s/he has a really small, enclosed bathroom?
My take on this research: it’s ok to not flush for onesies, just make sure you flush every now and then.

30 Before 30

I recently saw a pretty cool blog idea where the writer wrote a list of things she wanted to accomplish, and then came back a year later and checked off which ones she had done, adding a link to her blog post of said activity. I thought I would do the same…and then I started thinking…it’s already November…by next November, I’ll be on the eve of my 30th birthday (by “eve,” I mean about four months away…if you know my husband, ask him a funny story about this). I also saw a friend who did a “30 before 30” list: things she wanted to accomplish before turning 30 (am I insulting your intelligence? pretty self explanatory?) So, why not combine my list of things I want to accomplish with this little, minor, not-a-big deal birth year and make it into a 30 before 30? I found no good reason not to, so here we go. Let’s see if I can find 30 things I want to do…

I want to:
  1. First and foremost, I want to be settled into a job. No more uncertainty of what I’m doing…whether it’s working somewhere, or working on my own, I want it to be legit, I want to be able to get pregnant if we decide we’re ready, I want to have health insurance, I want to feel financially….hmmm….not-on-the-verge-of-being-broke? I know this is a lot for #1, but I think they all are part of one big package.
  2. Travel. There are too many places I want to go to: Germany (Mike, Uli & Hank!), Spain (Isa!), Hawaii (again, self-explanatory, but I want to be consistent with the parenthesis), Guatemala (grandma), Haiti (self explanatory). I’m not expecting all of these to happen before I turn 30. I’d be happy with one or two.
  3. Become serious about some sort of work out: whether it be walking/hiking, or picking up rock climbing again, which I miss doing.
  4. Develop my blog. This includes moving to WordPress, as well as figuring out how to make Adsense make me more money. I think since I started blogging two years ago (almost exactly!), I’ve made about $12 bucks. I’m not saying I’m not happy with my earnings…but I’m also not saying I wouldn’t mind more. I just need to figure out how to do that without changing what I write about or plastering my blog with ads.
  5. Develop Jeff’s art: portfolio, more art shows, website, you name it.
  6. Earn my blue shirt from Corazon
  7. Make it to Arizona to visit Courtney (this I technically want to cross off my list early in the year)
  8. Develop Haiti Scholarships into a successful nonprofit
  9. Jump out of a plane
  10. Go camping
  11. Go wine tasting
  12. Eat healthier, regularly
  13. Travel to Portland or Seattle
  14. Learn to say no, when necessary
  15. Have a romantic getaway weekend with Jeff (we’ve been talking about going to Solvang for a while now)
Hmm. I’m about 15 accomplishments short of 30.
I guess I could fill it in with 15 things I want to have before I turn 30…but that’s too materialistic to be a serious goal.
Suggestions?

DIY Craft Time, Part II

The Gang went to a Halloween party, wherein we took advantage of a very cool photo booth. I realized that I haven’t had printed pictures in quite a while, and these came out so cool, that I wanted to frame them. I did some research online, which made me realize they don’t sell what I want, but gave me an idea on how to do it on my own.
So. Craft time!



One of my big flaws is that I lack a desire for perfection. So the edges could have been cut a little cleaner, and the fabric could have been pulled a little tighter…and I probably should have made it out of a sturdier material…(all of this is probably making Busta want to pull her hair out…I’M SORRY!). But, it made me realize that I can be crafty and creative if I want to be. And, occasionally, I can make some pretty cool looking stuff.

Long live Halloween, 2011.

DIY Craft Time, Part I

Like most things I do, my new hobby became an obsession until I finished it on Sunday.
It’s not perfect, and if you look at the corners you can definitely tell where I ran in to some trouble, but for my first attempt, I don’t think it turned out too shabby!




I got the idea to keep the craftiness going by making my own wrapping paper. So, I went out and got some materials.

I tried to make free-hand circles out of the colored paper, and realized I have no talent for this. Fear not, I walked around Dad’s garage and found a few useful items that I could trace.
Oh hey, what’s that bottle at the front?


I’m not sure. The 30% and “rum” seem to be a pretty clear indication it’s alcohol. But the panties down, naked lady alone thing makes me wonder if I’m wrong. Or really great/creepy marketing.
Anyhow, I digress.
The end result was this:


The gold ribbon on the wrapping was supposed to be the ribbon on the blanket, but it was way too rough for a little baby blanket. Apparently, they don’t make gold-colored silk ribbon. Who knew.
As a side note: blogs in the future, including this one, will probably have too many unnecessary pictures (such as four pictures of the completed blankie), but Jeff and I both get a little carried away with testing out the new camera :)

October Charity of the Month: Taller San Jose

I’ve driven by it dozens of times, either on my way to PLC when I volunteered there throughout law school, or now on sporadic trips to the Central Justice Center for court hearings. I had a vague idea about what they did, but based on the name alone I knew it had to be pretty awesome. I kept putting it off though, until they were featured by FLOC last month. I figured, it’s a sign! So, a day late, here’s a little write up of what I found out.

In Spanish, a “taller” is a workshop, “a place to build and repair things.” And San Jose is Spanish for Saint Joseph, who’s the patron saint of workers.

Now that we’ve got the lingo down, let’s get down the business. What does Taller San Jose (“TSJ”) do? Simple: it walks young people in Orange County out of poverty. How do they do this? It’s actually not-so-simple.

In the words of TSJ’s Executive Director, Shawna Smith, one of the main jobs of the staff of TSJ is to fan what little hope these young individuals have when they walk through the lobby of the quaint Santa Ana location. In a short amount of time, these young individuals know that people care for them, that people mean it when they say “I care about you and your success,” that someone has their back. Many of these individuals come to TSJ with troubled pasts, difficult financial situations at home, and who knows what else. Letting them know that their goals are important, that they are a person with dignity, and that their life is important, is not easy. Most of us take these things for granted: I have a mother who made these things clear to me, and I grew up in an environment that led me to believe I could be anything I wanted to be. This is not the situation for many of the participants of the programs at TSJ.

“You mean I’m worth more than a minimum wage job? Woah.”

During my tour of their offsite facility where construction classes are held, I had an opportunity to hear from Scott, who has become a leader in his classroom, and has maintained perfect attendance throughout his program: “I feel like I can do something now, I can go out and get a job. If it wasn’t for this program, I’d probably still be doing drugs.” That’s an amazing and powerful statement for this organization, and only one of over 4,500 people that this organization has served since it opened its doors in 1995. I’m sure this is what Shawna noticed when she joined TSJ back in 1997, and her future career as a teacher went out the window: “I just felt called to serve.”

Back when Shawna first joined TSJ, it looked a little different than it does today. The program was centered around a high school completion program, with a carpentry program that taught students how to make benches, custom cabinetry and entertainment centers. Around 2005, TSJ realized there was a better way to help create long term success for it’s students: it began to emphasize more on job placement, and a little less on high school completion programs. Why? “For a young person who has an economic need, they don’t have four years to commit to just sitting in a high school classroom.” So they started to focus more on job training and job placement, while still helping their students complete high school if they hadn’t completed it yet.

This shift, however, had a huge impact on who they could serve: “Before, we had a much greater tolerance for serving kids without papers. When we switched to the workforce, we had to ask for papers. This was a huge ideological shift, one that we still struggle with: these kids look the same, they talk the same, they go to the same schools. But we can’t broker employment if we know they’re undocumented, and their opportunities for advancement [within our program] are so limited: we don’t want to set them up with unrealistic expectations, that just tears a person down.”

Although TSJ had to turn away some who are just as needy as others, it’s done a fantastic job of perfecting a program to ensure that those it does serve, are served well. For example, recognizing that most of their students can’t go to classes and miss an opportunity to earn money to cover expenses at home, TSJ students earn a $100 weekly stipend, and TSJ provides vouchers for transportation and child care.

TSJ operates through three different academies:

  • Medical Careers Academy: training for administrative office and entry-level clinical positions in healthcare
  • Office Careers Academy: training for administrative positions
  • Taller Tech Construction Academy: training for the construction industry

Of these, Shawna admits that the construction academy is usually the most appealing, or “sexy” to people; it’s harder to look at the office programs and realize what’s going on: there is a level of sophistication involved in a working environment and being in a professional setting.

Regardless of the Academy that each individual goes into, TSJ is doing much more than just providing an academic training. TSJ has set 7 goals for each student:

  1. Obtain a GED or high school diploma
  2. Master basic computer skills
  3. Open and use a bank account
  4. Obtain a driver’s license
  5. Register to vote
  6. Remain crime and drug free
  7. Obtain a job at better than minimum wage

The last one is probably the most challenging in our economic times, and one that I found really interesting. There is a difference between a minimum wage, and a living wage. In California, the minimum wage is $8.00 an hour, but the living wage in Orange County is more like $16.00 (California Budget Project, 2010). I love that this program focuses not on the minimum allowed by regulations, but on the reality of the financial needs of individuals in the specific geographic location they live in.

Given the financial downturn, TSJ has made a few adjustments to help their students and alumni find and maintain jobs. For one, they have created jobs themselves through the Hope Builders program. For another, they are creating new programs in areas where there is a new need. For example, within the construction program TSJ has started to offer a 40 hour training on solar panels, recognizing a field that may have increased need in the future. Seeing growth in the medical industry, TSJ is also implementing new programs in the medical academy, such as billing and coding.

Another change has been to make the program more of a 2-year program than a 16-week program: rather than classes to provide a specific skill set in an area, TSJ offers courses on writing resumes, mock interviews, job coaching, personal development workshops on financial literacy, healthy relationships, etc. TSJ checks in with each student at specific intervals throughout the 2-year program, to make sure the student is still on track, and working towards completing the 7 goals listed above.

The hope is that these changes will allow their graduates to find a job, and help them keep it.

The results of TSJ’s holistic approach are pretty amazing. 70% of students remain employed one year after graduation. And, my favorite statistic, only 8% of students with a criminal background are re-arrested (meaning that 92% of students do not reoffend). In California, the rate of recidivism is around 70%. Pretty cool, right?

Shawna originally switched from the original non-profit she was working with to TSJ because she wanted to work in an organization that was effectuating change. Based on the programs she’s helped start, and the effect they’re having on the lives of hundreds of individuals, I’d say her and TSJ are doing pretty well!

Hopefully you’ve stuck around long enough to get to my favorite part: how you can get involved!

  • Volunteer to conduct mock interviews and job readiness preparation with TSJ students. Although they’d understandably prefer that you be employed if you want to volunteer in this area, you don’t need any particular education or experience to do this. As long as you can provide meaningful feedback to the students, you’re in! Come once a month, or once a year, it’s up to you.
  • Facilitate workshops for students: if you have experience regarding safety in the workplace, customer service, etc., come talk to TSJ students about it!
  • Join a committee! TSJ has committees for special events, program development, etc.
  • Financial donations, of course, are always welcome. Like any other non profit, although the work they do is incredible, it’s still a business that requires money to keep it going.
  • Tell others about TSJ. Shawna mentioned this has been the key to staying afloat since the inception of TSJ. Especially in Orange County, it’s easy for people to go to work, come home, park in the garage, turn on the TV, and never know about the level of financial need that people within Orange County have. So, go out there and tell them :)

An immense thank you shout out to Shawna, who dedicated more time than I’m sure she had available to entertain my questions, to Liana for coordinating my tour through their facilities and putting me in contact with Shawna, and to my tour guide, who provided so much helpful information.

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